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Our baby girl is due in a few weeks so I’ve been asking every female friend and relative that I can for their very best “brand new mom” advice. I hear that those first weeks of parenthood can be challenging so the more prepared I can be, the better. However, I’ve also been talking to the men I know and gathering their “brand new dad” advice as well. I’ve received some pretty valuable information from seasoned fathers who have been right where my husband is about to be. These New Dad Survival Tips should come in handy at our house very soon. I hope they’re helpful for you as well.
1. Try not to stress about money.
This is number one because it seems to be first and foremost on a new dad’s mind. Mom has been looking at strollers, cribs, bouncers, and many more expensive items to buy for baby. It can be overwhelming. The good news is that if you can’t afford it right now, it can wait! Newborns do not need most of these items during their first months of life. Babies needs Mom and Dad most of all so it’s ok to put off buying some of these things until a little later. Whew!
2. Be a diaper changer.
Research shows that dad’s who help out with diaper changing duty end up having long, strong, and enjoyable marriages. Isn’t that reason enough to learn how to change a diaper and do it often? I think so.
3. Take control of dinner.
Instead of asking “what’s for dinner” during the first weeks of bringing home a baby, Dad will need to make dinner happen. Mom will be hungry due to all of the calories she is burning while breastfeeding. She will also be sleep deprived so having her cook is out of the question. Plan ahead to order takeout or arrange for someone to watch the baby for an hour so she can get out of the house and enjoy a meal with you.
If you’re lucky enough to have a BJ’s Restaurant nearby like we do, you can utilize their new Mobile App to enjoy an amazing meal with less hassle.
Simply download the new BJ’s Restaurant mobile app for iphone or Android to place an order for takeout, get ahead in line with the preferred waitlist, or order your food ahead of time for a quick dine-in experience.
We visited our local BJ’s Restaurant recently to try out the Dine In Order Ahead service and we were in and out in only 30 minutes. Plus, I had one of the best salad’s of my life!
I can see us utilizing the Take Out option at BJ’s Restaurant quite frequently but I also think that a super fast and delicious meal with their Order Ahead service could do this new mama a world of good!
4. Keep in touch with Mom during the day.
Mom is going to be counting down the hours, minutes, and seconds until Dad gets home. Try to keep communication open with her during the day to let her know if you will be coming home late (or early) in order to avoid any frustration. It’s important to try to get home as soon as you can and save “after work” activities for a few weeks down the road. Plus, it’s nice to send her an encouraging text here and there to let her know you are thinking about her and the new little one.
5. Get excited about the baby.
Sometimes it takes Dad a little bit longer to bond with the baby but don’t let that cloud your excitement. Show enthusiasm when you are around your baby and while talking to Mom about the baby. This important for all three of you.
6. Don’t complain.
You may have had a hard day at work but she has most definitely had a hard day at home. Mom will need your positivity when you get home so try not to complain about your day. Keep things light and happy!
7. Hold the baby.
Babies aren’t breakable! Although it may not be comfortable for you at first, make a sincere effort to hold your child often. This is the only way to get comfortable and give Mom a much needed break. You can do it!
8. Share your feelings.
It was surprising to learn that a lot of dad’s feel left out at first. Know that this is common and talk to Mom about it. She probably doesn’t realize it. Knowing that Dad has a desire to be closer to the baby is endearing and Mom is sure to oblige.
9. Be her breastfeeding cheerleader.
She’s heard a lot of negative comments about breastfeeding so there may come a time or many times that Mom will need to hear you say that you are proud of her for breastfeeding. Encourage her to keep doing it but also be willing to support her if she needs to start using formula instead.
10. Help out at night.
There’s no sweeter gesture than helping Mom out at night with the baby. Dad can occasionally get up with the baby and bring him or her to mom, help out with middle of the night diaper changes and rocking the baby back to sleep. Mom will be so grateful anytime you can do this.
Most of all, be kind to each other and patient with one another. Give your spouse a break and endless love!
If you have any tips of your own that you’d like to share to the new dads of the world, please comment with them. I would absolutely love to hear them! I hope my husband is listening.